RIP Roy. Time to program the tunes upstairs.
Thanks for everything you brought to the broadcasting industry Roy - you will be missed but won’t be forgotten! Rest easy - your work is done and you nailed it! My best!
Sitting with the loss of my friend and mentor. Sad and joyful In my reflection as many of us are richer for knowing him. I am ever grateful that he called the Chum Fm hotline.
Real friendship is always a revelation, not only in realizing suddenly that our heart has been stolen away, but that the mutual theft has been occurring for a long time; admiration on our part turns to the understanding that you also have a place in their heart, and seals the relationship. I’ve always found this piece comforting from David Whyte.
For Roy.
FRIENDSHIP
is a mirror to presence and a testament to forgiveness. Friendship not only helps us to see ourselves through another’s eyes, but can be sustained over the years only with someone who has repeatedly forgiven us for our trespasses as we must find it in ourselves to forgive them in turn.
A friend knows our difficulties and shadows and remains in sight, a companion to our vulnerabilities more than our triumphs, when we are under the strange illusion we do not need them. An undercurrent of real friendship is a blessing exactly because its elemental form is rediscovered again and again through understanding and mercy. All friendships of any length are based on a continued, mutual forgiveness. Without tolerance and mercy all friendships die.
In the course of the years a close friendship will always reveal the shadow in the other as much as ourselves, to remain friends we must know the other and their difficulties and even their sins and encourage the best in them, not through critique but through addressing the better part of them, the leading creative edge of their incarnation, thus subtly discouraging what makes them smaller, less generous, less of themselves.
Friendship is the great hidden transmuter of all relationship: it can transform a troubled marriage, make honorable a professional rivalry, make sense of heartbreak and unrequited love and become the newly discovered ground for a mature parent-child relationship.
The dynamic of friendship is almost always underestimated as a constant force in human life: a diminishing circle of friends is the first terrible diagnostic of a life in deep trouble: of overwork, of too much emphasis on a professional identity of forgetting who will be there when our armored personalities run into the inevitable natural disasters and vulnerabilities found in even the most ordinary existence…
Friendship transcends disappearance: an enduring friendship goes on after death, the exchange only transmuted by absence, the relationship advancing and maturing in a silent internal conversational way even after one half of the bond has passed on.
But no matter the medicinal virtues of being a true friend or sustaining a long close relationship with another, the ultimate touchstone of friendship is not improvement, neither of the self nor of the other, the ultimate touchstone is witness, the privilege of having been seen by someone and the equal privilege of being granted the sight of the essence of another, to have walked with them and to have believed in them, and sometimes just to have accompanied them for however brief a span, on a journey impossible to accomplish alone.
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‘FRIENDSHIP’ From
CONSOLATIONS:
The Solace, Nourishment and Underlying Meaning
of Everyday Words. © David Whyte:
Many Rivers Press REVISED EDITION 2020
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Mr.Hennessy thank you for all the stories and all the laughs over the years!! Thanks for introducing us to boating and making us feel welcome on F dock. Thanks for your friendship over the years! We will miss you very much! Untill we meet again xoxo 🍷🍷
What can you say about Roy’s “DONE”, sad for sure but incredibly happy to have known this wonderful fellow as well as I did. Just over 20 years ago I arrived with Seanote at F Dock at Toronto’s Outer Harbour Marina. Right from day one, minute one we became friends as so many did on F Dock. His kindness, ability to share in every way made him so special. The 3 Amigos had many an adventure on and off the dock and laughter was incessant. Roy was also helpful with advice and ideas for my business and enthusiastically so. He was an idea man!! The first three words he always spoke when I answered the phone when he called was not “Hi how are you” but “yes my brother”! I’m grateful for the special bond we shared. To Brenda and the family out West we send you our love and heartfelt sympathies. The memories of times with Roy will be with me forever and will be talked about with The Admiral and others from F Dock for sure . Roy ,
May the seas lie smooth before you and May an gentle breeze forever fill your sails, may sunshine warm your face, and kindness warm your soul, and until we meet again brother may God bless you and keep you safe in the palm of his hand. Safe journey.