In Celebration of

Helen Fediw

May 10, 1922 -  October 15, 2020

Helen Fediw was proud to become a Canadian citizen after coming to Canada from Germany in the early 1950s. She embraced her new home, but kept close ties with her family in Germany, visiting a number of times and hosting her siblings and their children. Eventually, one of her brothers and a sister came to Canada and she remained close to them. When she first arrived in Canada, she worked briefly at Mcgregor socks, working with salesmen to create new argyle sock colour combinations. Her sense of colour led to her create pink argyle patterns which, contrary to what the salesmen thought, became an instant hit. She met Nicholas Fediw and after their marriage, they moved into their own home in Parkdale, where Helen managed the household and a number of tenants until they moved into the suburbs in the early 1970s after their daughter finished grade school in Parkdale. Helen and Nick were married 60 years until his passing seven years ago.

In the winter Helen crocheted extensively, creating afghans, slippers, pillow covers, and so on. For her, window coverings were paramount and she sewed her own curtains and her daughter's, as well as sewing and mending clothes. Always busy, she was on the go from morning to late in the night when she would catch a few hours of sleep. She was an exceptional cook of German, Ukrainian, and Canadian meals. She loved animals, and made sure all stray cats were well feed along with any stray skunks, raccoons, and porcupines at the cottage. An avid gardener, she worked all spring and summer on her gardens at home and at the cottage.

But this summer she could not work in the garden. A weakening heart necessitated a number of visits to the hospital culminating in a five day stay in June which weakened her greatly, but helped stabilize her condition. After she came home she said, "I want to live a little bit longer." And with the help of caregivers and the opportunity to be at home, she rallied, and got better, enough so that she was up and about, tidying, watering plants, organizing anything and everything.

But it wasn't enough and the last few weeks she weakened, ate less and less and passed away at home in the morning on October 15 at the age of 98. She is survived by her baby brother Ewald, her daughter Karin and her many nephews and nieces in Canada, the USA, and Germany.

Her stay at home couldn't have been possible without the support of LHIN (formerly CCAC). Nola Jackson was sympathetic, understanding, and supportive and said she could get her all the help she needed. Dr. Varga was instrumental in setting up her homecare by stating exactly what she needed, making her homecoming easier and putting in place nursing care. The caregivers were patient, helpful, and ready to do what was needed. A special thanks to Ruth, who has been with Helen for over three years, coming in to see to her personal needs. Ruth adored Helen's strength and need to help--even when she really couldn't. A number of people were there to support the family. Thanks to Dinah Baronitis who was there for support and suggestions. Her understanding of the needs of ill and their families is priceless. Thanks to Edith Ferkulj and Marta Ostapowych who were there ever ready to offer help and listen to the concerns of the family. Thanks to Ted Rudyk, Lori Balzereit, and Ewald Balzereit who visited Helen in hospital some three years ago, and came regularly to the house to visit this year when she came back from the hospital.

To Helen, family was very important, and it made her happy to be at home with her family around her.



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Ewald Balzereit and family (Brother Ewald, neice Lori and greatnephew, Matthew)

Entered October 19, 2020 from Toronto, Ontario

Edwald: To lose my last sibling is very difficult. Even though Helen and I were 10 years apart, I felt very close to her. We enjoyed visiting her and we're so happy to see her health improve once home with Karin, her beloved cats and plants. Helen was our family storyteller. I remembered very little as the youngest child in the family but she remembered so much, including how to cook our mom's cabbage rolls, which were my favourite. Bless Karin for her lifelong dedication/care for her mom. Auf Wiedersehen schwester. Ich liebe dich .

Lauren McPherson (Great Niece)

Entered October 21, 2020 from Angus, Ontario

I have many fond memories of Helen, growing up in Toronto. Visiting with my mother (her niece) and my Oma (her sister). Helen was a kind, soft woman and will be missed. Rest in Peace Great Tante Lena.

Anni & Renate Rittberger (Cottage friends for over 45 years)

Entered October 21, 2020

One of my favourite memories of times spent with Frau Fediw and Karin was on a trip to Akumal , Mexico many moons ago. We were sitting on the balcony having coffee (or maybe cocktails!) and cake. She was a great baker and enjoyed a good cake. It was a hot day and she was discussing which cake she would bake on her return, when my mother piped up "in this heat"? We all agreed but then remembered, it was January!
We will miss you but remeber you always!
Aufwiedersehen.


Muriel Carruthers (Old Friend)

Entered October 25, 2020 from Embrun, Ont.

Dear Karin,
So sorry to read this obituary today. Your mother was a very special lady and always made me feel welcome when I visited many years ago.
Thinking about you and how you took care of her at home, no easy task. I always admired your close relationship with your mother, and I finally had an insight into such a bond with my own mother before she passed away.
I am glad your close friends are there to help you through this loss, but night or day you can call me if you need an ear. Muriel

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